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laurenprayIt’s June in Scarsdale … a time for proms, moving up ceremonies, end of year activities and fun. For parents, it is a time for milestones in their children’s lives -- the completion of a grade, the end of elementary school and for some, high school graduation. However, the recent news about Lauren Spierer at Indiana University has cast a pall over this joyous time and a shadow across the entire community.

In a school district as small as Edgemont, with only 144 students in the graduating class, the Spierer’s are well known and their daughters have crossed paths with a wide swath of their neighbors. Everyone seems heartsick about her disappearance and after they express concern for her, they often say something like “there but for the grace of God go I.” Lauren’s disappearance has highlighted the fragility of our lives and the inability of parents to protect their children, especially when some attend college hundreds of miles away.

Edgemont mom Caroline Tzelios sent in the following on how Lauren has touched the community:

As the buses headed toward 6th grade camp departed on Monday morning, parents spoke of the search for Lauren Spierer. A concerned mother summed up her feelings, "It is difficult enough to wave good bye to your 11 year old as he leaves for just five days with his friends -- what must the Spierers be going through after not knowing where their daughter is for over a week. My heart goes out to them and I pray every night that there will be news soon." Everyone agreed that the situation is heart breaking, every parent's worst nightmare.

Wherever you go in Edgemont, parents talk about Lauren and everyone's hope is the same: that she be found alive and safe and comes home soon. In a small community where everyone knows each other, many families feel like a member of their own family has gone missing. It has been a real wake up call in Edgemont about the dangers that all the children face when out in the world.

In Scarsdale, a high school senior, who headed out to Bloomington this week for her student orientation at Indiana University reports, “The mood on campus seems a little eerie, seeing [Lauren’s] picture everywhere, police, and search parties all over.”

Here at home, parents with college-aged children have Lauren on their minds as well. One Scarsdale Dad with a daughter who just completed freshman year said, “I tell my kids that nothing good ever happens after midnight.” But what good does that do when college parties often begin at midnight?

Another Mom was perplexed about why this generation of students seems to party to excess. Among students it appears to be a badge of honor to get sick, black out or end up in the hospital. Though it was legal to drink at 18 years old when most of the parents came of age, few of us remember our peers abusing alcohol to this extent. Schools have stepped up education on substance abuse. However the message does not seem to be getting through.

I always tell my kids to travel in packs and never go out alone. But according to students at Indiana University, the blocks where Lauren was last seen were well traveled and generally thought to be safe. At some point, students need to go home to their own dorms or apartments and inevitably they do walk alone.

In sum, all of our good advice cannot protect our children from the risks of the real world. I guess we just have to accept that even when our kids do everything right, things can go wrong. Whether we knew Lauren personally or not, we all feel the Spierer’s pain and hold out hope that she will be found.

Many families are planning to attend a fundraiser for Lauren at Edgemont High School on Thursday night. June 16 to send positive thoughts to the Spierers. Here are the details:

The extended Edgemont community is invited to "Take A Stand to # Find Lauren," a fundraiser for the Find Lauren Fund, this Thursday, June 16, 7 p.m. at the EHS Football Field at Edgemont Junior Senior High School. Bring your mats, towels, $10 or $20 bills and learn or enjoy simple yoga moves while sending positive energy and thoughts to bring Lauren back to Edgemont. 100% of the donations will go to the Find Lauren fund. Even if yoga is not your thing, you are invited join the Edgemont community to show the Spierers our love and support.

westchestermagazineScarsdale resident, PR executive and media watcher Drew Kerr was very surprised when he received the May issue of Westchester Magazine in the mail. The cover story featured “Beautiful People, 21 Best Looking Residents” and Kerr says his “eyes popped” when he saw it. In his view, “we have enough shallowness in our towns, much less the world... do we really need this when adults and children are battered with self-image issues from the media and peers?”

Apparently he wasn’t alone. When the June issue of the magazine came out, he noted that many also found the piece offensive and he was even more surprised by the Editor’s response.

He wrote about the issue in his blog post, Drew Kerr’s PR Rock and Roll as a case study on how to handle the backlash when something goes wrong.

Read his advice here and click on the link below to read more from Kerr:

Sometimes companies gamble on a product or idea, whether they aware of it or not, and the results can possibly backfire. At those times, you have to suck it up and admit you may have been wrong, and here's how you will fix it for the immediate future. It's crisis communications 101.

Here is a story of a publisher who rolled the dice on a very sensitive topic, felt the backlash, but bungled the response.

Westchester Magazine, a beautiful, slick suburban publication which I regularly read, did the equivalent of waving a red flag in front of an angry bull last month: it published a cover story on the "21 Best Looking Residents."

Before I even cracked the first page, I thought to myself, "Uh oh."

My gut reaction was: we have enough shallowness in our towns, much less the world... do we really need this when adults and children are battered with self-image issues from the media and peers... middle school kids go through the anxiety ringer with cliques and cyberbullying -- is this something they should see... how the heck can you pick 21 people out of a county of 955,000 and say they are the "best looking?

According to the article, here's how they picked those 21 best-looking people: "We asked dozens of beauty pros, put out a call for nominations, queried our neighbors, friends and family to come up with this bevy of beauties of all ages, from all walks of life. Yes, we know that true beauty comes from within, yada, yada, yada -- but sometimes you just have to take these things at face value. Enjoy the scenery."

Who are these beauty pros, how many nominations were sent in, were they of themselves, who are the friends and family -- nobody knows. Thankfully, the youngest person profiled was 25 and not in school. While I'm not expecting Pulitzer-nominated investigative stories in my county magazine, you could see from 100 miles away that this was not going to go down well.

The next month's letters section of Westchester magazine bore that out. Here are excerpts:

* My jaw dropped when I saw your May cover. Are these 21 people really worthy of being singled out from the nearly one million Westchester residents, or is this simply an exercise in flattering a few connected individuals? Have we in Westchester become so shallow that we are actually interested in who your editorial staff deems to be beautiful? I’ve thrown the issue in the trash so that my children don’t get the wrong impression that who is or who isn’t “beautiful” is worthy of this sort of attention!

* Given Westchester’s great diversity (one of our most valued strengths), I was eager to see how your team would celebrate this great attribute. Now, I am stunned, having just thumbed through the feature’s 16 pages and seen not a single African American woman! Not one! Depending on your source, African Americans represent between 13.3 percent and 14.4 percent of the county’s population... I have a 14-year-old daughter who is beautiful by any standard. Unfortunately, I cannot let her see this issue because, by the standards of the editors of Westchester Magazine, which comes into our home each month, she isn’t beautiful at all. Or at least no one who looks like her is beautiful enough to be so recognized. And that’s a shame.

* Your May issue is why the suburbs are considered soulless, vapid, and uninspiring. Westchester County is rich in history and natural beauty, although anyone who reads your magazine would be hard pressed to find little more than articles dedicated to shopping and advertisements for cosmetic surgery. I’m canceling my subscription.

* Your magazine has reached an all-time low. What’s with your feature story about “21 Best Looking Residents?” Who cares?!!!

There was not one letter published in favor of the cover story.

Here is your classic scenario of a company gambling on something a bit edgy with distinct possible pitfalls, and getting whipped by some of its customers for it.

What would you expect as a response from the editor? An apology of some sort, right? We all make mistakes, and even if you didn't think this was one, you want to make some kind of amends with the offended customers. A little humbleness, perhaps?

But this was not the road taken in the editor's response (which I have to reproduce entirely here because of its breathtaking scope):

To think we were worried about engaged readership…Okay, you got us, Westchester: we’re suckers for a symmetrical face and expressive eyes.

We feel good admitting that, though, because we know we’re in good company. After all, the nominations for the article came from you and local experts in the beauty biz. That’s right. We may not be able to promise that these 21 lovely people are the absolute best-looking Westchester residents, but you certainly seemed to think so.

Frankly, we would have gone crazy if we’d had to make the list ourselves. We think you’re all so darn hot and wouldn’t imply for a second that anyone who wasn’t chosen is anything less. Of course, beauty isn’t everything. So, like a lot of the beautiful residents profiled in our pages, we urge you to “look under the surface,” i.e., our Table of Contents. In just the last two months, you’d find stories on the history of Westchester’s bridges, profiles of barrier-breakers like Dr. Yvonne Thornton (the first African American woman to be board certified in maternal-fetal medicine), a feature package on our LGBT community, not to mention a nod toward the natural beauty of our county’s common fish. You’ll see references to Malcolm X, Stravinsky, Yves Tanguy, Nabokov, and Shakespeare, who certainly never turned up his Elizabethan nose at “beauty too rich for use.”

Yes, Westchester is rich in history and natural beauty. It’s also rich in creative designers, restaurants on the cusp of environmental movements, and, yes, a gaggle of people fairer than a summer’s day. We love it all; we want to celebrate it all! And that brings us to diversity.

Our 21 beautiful residents (who run the gamut, Leo, of five different decades in age) and included one Puerto Rican, one Pakistani, one Irishman, one Siberian, one Chinese-Jamaican, one Dominican, one Indian, one African American man, and, yes, and one African American/West Indian woman. In striving for broad diversity without adhering to strict quotas (which don’t always capture the realities of our increasingly mixed heritage), we do hope that—unlike so much contemporary media—we communicated our firm belief that beauty flourishes in each of our communities.

So take a look at yourself in the mirror, Westchester: you’re lookin’ good.

I don't know how this editor's response is going over with the readers, but to me, this is what's known as a textbook excuse, not an apology. In the editor's mind, this seems to resolve the controversy, but perhaps in the minds of the readers, I'm not sure it did, and it could have possible made it worse.

There is no resolution, no "peace pipe," and no humbling.

I sent an e-mail to Westchester magazine Esther Davidowitz, asking her why there was no apology in her response, how many nominations were received as part of the voting process, who were the local beauty experts who voted, what kind of feedback did she expect from the story, and would she do the story differently the next time around? She did not reply.

Companies face irate customers all the time, sometimes more than others. Take a good look at that editor's reply because this is exactly what not to do.

1) PUTTING THE BLAME ON THE CUSTOMERS: Let me get this straight -- you're blaming us, the readers, for voting these 21 people in? Again, who did the voting? Who are the beauty experts? How many votes did you get out of the 955,000 residents of Westchester County? How many times did your friends and neighbors vote?

2) DIVERSION FROM THE CORE ISSUE: We admire you published articles about many different ethnicities and gender preferences in the past. You name dropped Shakespeare, Malcolm X and Stravinsky. OK, so you went to college and can refer to those people in the magazine. But what does that have to do with a dubious vote for the 21 best-looking people in the county? Those people and your other articles have nothing to do with this article.

3) TREATING THE TOPIC TOO LIGHTLY: "Take a look in the mirror, Westchester, you're lookin' good?" Put the pom-poms away. I don't know if anybody is laughing. If we're all "lookin' good," why are you singling out 21 of us? This kind of cheerleader talk is as plastic as the notion that there are 21 people who look better than the other 955,000 in Westchester. Good way to add fuel to the fire.

4) NO APOLOGY: Customers are ticked. There are some unhappy people and they've written in to tell you how they feel. As a matter of fact, there is not one positive letter published. Even if you think you are right, you owe an apology to those angry readers. You don't have to make a big deal about it. At least say "if you felt our story offended you, we are sorry. It was not our intention." You save face, you don't seem above it all, and perhaps you don't lose customers.

Read more from Drew Kerr's PR Rock and Roll here:

 

chaseparkThe Scarsdale Teen Center is proud to present the annual Memorial Day Music Fest on Saturday, May 28th from 1-8pm in Chase Park. The event will begin with a Bike Rodeo from 1PM - 2:30 pm when the Teen Center and AAA New York will team up to help promote bike safety for young riders. Participants bring their own bikes and helmets and run through a riding skills course, get their bikes and helmets checked by a bike technician, and learn about the rules of the road. Registration begins at 1PM and rodeo begins at 1:30PM.

The day continues with musical performances from 3 to 8 pm.

 

The line-up includes:

  • Shadow Act
  • Short Bus
  • Talking to Walls
  • The Escape Directors
  • The Great Valley
  • Temporary Heroes

Enjoy food, fun and performances by local bands and teen talent from in Chase Park. For more information please visit http://www.scarsdaleteencenter.com/memorialdaymusicfest.htm or call Brittney Coleman, Program Director at 722-8358.

 

 

coledge3Colonial Day: Edgewood's 4th graders spent a day in the life of the colonists on May 18th. During the Edgewood PTA sponsored event they stencil, tinsmithed, made candles, played with toys and games from the period, cleaned, spun and wove wool, made butter, attended a Dame School, learned some of the music and dance of the period and enjoyed a delicious "period" lunch prepared by parent volunteers.

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Project Linus: Every year Edgewood’s fifth grade class takes part in a community service project to further the tradition of giving back. By volunteering, children learn to make and keep a commitment. They also learn how to work as a team, do their best and to take pride in their efforts. But most importantly they learn that they are responsible for their community. This year’s community service project was Project Linus, a group that provides love, a sense of security, warmth and comfort to children who are seriously ill, traumatized, or otherwise in need through the gifts of new, handmade blankets and afghans, lovingly created by volunteer "blanketeers." Together they have distributed over three million blankets to children in need since their inception in 1995.

Over the course of a month, the Edgewood fifth grade made 34 fleece blankets. Students were paired into groups with kids from other classes. Each week a new group met and completed a blanket in pairs during their lunch period -- only taking the last few minutes to eat their lunch. The children took so much pride in their blankets that once they were done they wanted to make another one. The children understood that one person can make a difference in a child's life and that they are important enough to accomplish it on their own. They also understood that they wouldn’t be able to video chat or visit the kids who received the blankets. The recipients of Edgewood’s blankets are Special Summer Camp for sick children and Foster Care Kids. The Project Linus project was run by Lucy D’Ambrosio, Akiko Leone, Anjani Zen with the help of the fifth grade teachers: Mr. Gluck, Mrs. Huang and Ms. Tyler as well as our parent volunteers. The project was funded by Edgewood’s Fifth Grade Committee on behalf of the PTA.

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Photos and text by Tracy McCarthy

 

 

eday42Edgemont elementary students enjoyed E-Day at Edgemont High School on Saturday morning May 14th. The event is an annual tradition, now in its 55th year. Graced with perfect weather, kids joined in fun sports competitions followed by a delicious barbecue. The event is organized by the E Club, an organization of parents which supports the athletic programs at the school.

 

 

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