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anxietyThough the term anxiety conjures up uncomfortable associations with pounding hearts and sleepless nights, it turns out that a little bit of anxiety is a good thing. It’s anxiety that prevents us from oversleeping, missing deadlines and keeping commitments. Anxiety also protects us from dangerous activities that imperil our physical safety. So how can we use a little anxiety to help us succeed and prevent overwhelming anxiety from undermining us? Even more perplexing, how do we teach our children how to deal with their worries?

That was the subject of an informative talk from clinical social worker Kimberly Vale at a meeting sponsored by the PT Council and CHILD on Tuesday January 8 at Scarsdale Middle School. In a well-crafted presentation, Vale helped parents identify the signs of anxiety in their children and provided them with some tactics to address it.

Vale explained that anxiety is common among children, with one in eight children meeting the criteria for this mental illness and one in three teens afflicted. Vale explained anxiety as “an evolutionary imprint that protects us,” and “the body’s natural ability to detect danger.” She called it both “necessary and useful.”

However, when anxiety is intense, excessive and persistent and causes kids to avoid normal activities it becomes a problem. This crippling anxiety is out of proportion with the actual danger at hand and is long lasting.

How to deal with it? Vale says that constantly reassuring child that they have nothing to worry about or that they will be okay does not help a child to deal with their anxiety. In fact, this response on a parent’s part can feed their child’s anxiety rather than alleviate it.

Instead Vale recommended a series of tactics to normalize the anxiety and teach kids to combat it. She advocated teaching kids that the anxiety is a “false alarm that is going off,” and emphasizing that fears are temporary. She said, “We are not trying to make them (the fears) go away – just not letting them get in the way.” She tells her patients to give their anxiety a name like “Mr. Baloney,” and to learn to combat their anxious alter egos.

Rather than avoid anxiety-provoking situations, Vale recommended that parents give their kids a small taste of what scares them so that they can learn to cope. For instance, if your child is afraid of dogs, arrange a quick visit to a friend’s house where a dog is present and let the child get used to playing at a house with a dog.

She told parents to encourage their children to talk about their fears and to assure children that as a parent, you are on their team. Since Scarsdale has professional staff at each school, she recommended that parents with anxious children share their concerns with the child’s teacher or school psychologist so that the school staff can also help the child to cope with anxiety.

When to find a therapist? If the anxiety becomes pervasive and prevents children from doing their school work, attending parties, participating in sports – or doing what they want to do – Vale recommended getting some professional help, especially from the personnel at the Scarsdale Schools.panel

Her talk was followed by a panel discussion with some of the district’s psychologists and youth outreach workers from Scarsdale Family Counseling Service. They are an impressive group and available to parents and kids. Director of Special Education Eric Rauschenbach introduced Leah Furst, Emily Vallario, Jenn Walker,Kristin Oliverio and Elliot Cohen, all available at district schools to assist parents and students confront anxiety.

Learn more from the following resources:

Find a therapist: www.abct.org

Parenting articles: https://childmind.org

Helping Your Anxious Child: A Step-by-Step Guide for Parents" by Ronald M. Rapee PhD, Ann Wignall D. Psych, Susan Spence, PhD, Vanessa Cobham, PhD, Heidi Lyneham, PhD.

“Freeing Your Child Frm Obsessive Compulsive Disrder, Chansky, Tamar E.,PhD

App guide: https://psyberguides.org/apps

Butler6This month Scarsdale Middle Schoolers in 6th grade Butler house completed 1,000 Acts of Kindness. They were involved with helping people in the school and throughout the community.

As part of their project Butler 6 worked with Fountain 6, their sister house, to collect over 255 toys for the Children's Hospital at Montefiore. Students donated toys for Montefiore's Holiday toy drive. Next week the toys will be distributed to patients at the Children's Hospital Holiday Party.

In addition, Butler 6 started a new program called Adopt-a-Senior. For the holiday season each of the students in Jeanne-Marie Castiello’s social studies classes adopted a senior resident at the Schaffer Extended Care Center at Montefiore. Students purchased a gift for the 100 residents at Schaffer. Commenting on the program, Castiello said, "My students worked so hard this month. They did so many amazing acts like feeding the homeless, volunteering at various charities and of course the work with Montefiore. We teach them to be stewards of change, but it’s heartwarming to see 11 year olds taking action and making a difference in their own community."


CNCGraphicThe Citizens Nominating Committee (“CNC”) is currently searching for potential candidates to run for the position of Mayor and three opening Village Trustee positions. Names of potential candidates should be submitted to the CNC by Friday, December 7, 2018. The General Village Election is on Tuesday, March 19, 2019.

According to Jon Mark, Chair of CNC (a non-voting position) “The CNC conducts a confidential and non-issue based review of potential candidates for office. The cornerstone tenet of Scarsdale’s hundred-year nonpartisan tradition is that a candidate’s general abilities and character - not their personal position on any Village issue – are held paramount to all other considerations. The objective is to find the best possible individuals to serve the Village no matter what issues the future may bring.”

The CNC is a group of 30 elected representatives (6 from each neighborhood) tasked with reaching-out within our Village community to encourage residents who are ready, willing, and able to volunteer their service as one of three new Trustees.

CNC representatives are available to answer questions and help candidates through the non-partisan process, which involves the completion of a biographical sketch and a brief presentation. The names of those who come before the CNC are kept confidential to encourage as many qualified individuals as possible to come forward.

If you (or anyone you know) would make a great Mayor or Village Trustee please contact any member of the CNC listed on the attachment. Candidates must be U.S. citizens over the age of 21 and residents of the Village of Scarsdale.

Information about the Citizens Nominating Committee can be found on the web site of the Scarsdale Procedure Committee: http://scarsdaleprocedurecommittee.org.


No need to leave Scarsdale to find great gifts for family, friends, colleagues, neighbors and everyone you wish to thank at the end of the year. The Scarsdale retail scene is experiencing a resurgence and you can find nice merchandise and support Village businesses by shopping local. Here are just a few places to shop for the holidays:

BronxDogBronx River Books: Caffeinate your holidays and BronxRiverGiftsthe new year with an assortment of literary mugs: Austen, Vonnegut, Bronte, Famous First Lines of Literature, Famous Last Lines, Shakespeare Love Quotations, Shakespeare Insults, Disappearing Civil Liberties, more.

Bronx River Books

37 Spencer Place
Scarsdale, New York

bernhardtLulu Cake Boutique has a special holiday menu with signature sweets for Hanukkah, Christmas and New Years. Lulu's holds the original secret recipe to Jespersen's Sarah Bernhardts, crafted with the finest ingredients: Valrhona chocolate, imported Italian almond paste, fresh local cream and butter. Dazzle your guests with this creative confection featuring Santa, a gift list and wrapped presents in red, green, purple and blue. Also on the menu are three variations on "Buche de Noel" in Valrhona chocolate, nutella with candied hazelnuts or pistachio salty caramel with dark chocolate. Find artisan rainbow cakes in apricot pear and almond, lemon and candied ginger and chocolate framboise raspberry as well as yodels, assorted retro twinkies and rugelach.

Order today. Lulu will be open on Christmas Eve, December 24 and New Year's Eve, December 31 for pick-ups from 9 am to 1 pm.

Lulu Cake Boutique
40 Garth Road
Scarsdale, NY 10583
(914) 722-8300

Trapp Opticians: Holiday Sale! Trapp1
Now through December 31, 2018.
50% off selected frames*
15% off prescription sunglasses.**
At Trapp Opticians, We have always offered choices of the very best European and luxury eyeglass frames. We always fabricate your glasses on site and offer the best first quality lines from Hoya, Varilux, Shamir and the newest technology for the best vision.

Trapp Opticians

10 Harwood Court, Scarsdale
(914) 472-8900

*Complete pair purchase required
**Some brands excluded (Maui Jim, Vuarnet. Scarsdale shop only. Please bring this offer or mention at time of purchase. Not valid on prior purchases.

KarenLazarBracelets2I Am More Scarsdale: Karen Lazar's 14k gold-filled bracelets are versatile and can be dressed-up or dressed-down. They look amazing with a watch, bracelet, or in a stack, and they can feel both bohemian and classic. The bracelets also give women that opportunity for a quick fix-something new and shiny that you can add to your existing collection. Prices for bracelets range from $45- $180. 10% discount offered on stacks of 5 or more bracelets. I Am More Scarsdale is a unique women's retail concept in Scarsdale Village, features the hottest new trends in fashion, accessories and jewelry. I Am More's mission is to empower women to make them feel confident and to give back to local and women's philanthropic organizations.

I Am More Scarsdale
6 Spencer Place, Scarsdale
914-723-6673 (MORE)

eyegallery1Eye Gallery of Scarsdale invites you to see the newest styles. Chrome Hearts handcrafted pure sterling silver and titanium styles with matted metals. Colors and mirrors are alive and well! Barton Perreira is always ahead of the trends with their new butterfly titanium style and Chanel's Winter 2018 Ultra Perle sunglasses are eyegallery2handcrafted with subtlety....Find the latest styles for winter from Salt Optics, Thierry Lasry, Matsuda, Mykita, Eyevan 7285, Garret Leight, Celine and countless others!!

Eye Gallery of Scarsdale
8 Spencer Place
Scarsdale, NY 10583
(914) 472-2020

springsteinCurrent Home offers Custom Album Cover Lyric Art: Rock on for the holidays! One Song a million memories! Music brings it all back and these custom plexi-art pieces are the perfect way to remember the soundtrack to your most special moments.

Choose the artist, album cover your love and song we do the rest. These are also perfect gifts for milestone gratefuldeadbirthdays, anniversaries and weddings. Allow 2-4 weeks for delivery.

Current Home
1096 Wilmot Road
(914) 723-2462

earringsHolsten Jewelers: For 106 years, the Holsten name has been synonymous with elegant design, fine craftsmanship, integrity and impeccable service. Holsten Jewelers offers jewelry repairs, appraisals, watch repairs and ear piercing all done on site in Scarsdale! This year, consider these secure huggieholstenlogo earrings featuring pave diamond accents, perfectly sized for everyday wear. This pair has been created in 14kt yellow gold, but is available in 14kt white gold as well. Price: $425. Come to see our full selection.

Holiday hours:
Sunday: 12:00pm-5:00pm
Monday, Tuesday, Thursday: 10:00am-6:00pm
Friday-Saturday: 10:00am-5:30pm

Holsten Jewelers

5 Harwood Court
Scarsdale, NY 10583
(914) 472-4554

JCCFlashSale20% off at the JCC of Mid-Westchester: Want to give personal training a try or buy 30 sessions of pilates reformer? This is your chance to do either or buy as a gift for a friend. JCCMW is offering 20% OFF personal training, nutrition consult, Pilates reformer, Reiki and/or massage sessions when purchased between 12/2 and 12/6. To take advantage of 20% OFF, call 914.472.3300 x 356 or stop by 999 Wilmot Road in Scarsdale. Available for purchase by members and non-members. Purchases are unlimited but expire by 3/31/19.

999 Wilmot Road, Scarsdale
(914) 472-3300

Fitness Boot Camp: New Year New You: Discover the Scarsdale Fitness Boot Camp thatfitnessbootcamp burns twice the fat, gets you fit and challenges your body every time. Scarsdale Fit Body Boot Camp combines our signature afterburn workouts, which keep your metabolism high and burning extra fat for up to 32 hours after each workout, with smart nutrition coaching and personalized accountability to deliver rapid, lasting, sustainable results.

Come in to Scarsdale Fit Body Boot Camp today to see our positive, welcoming, high-energy community in action and start your journey to getting in the best shape of your life!

Start off the New Year with an awesome fitness regimen: Holiday PIF Special: Pay for a Year and get 3 months free, limited to the first 10 people that come in, the 15 months start 1/01/19 but you can workout the rest of ’18 on us to help you get through the holiday season.

Fitness Boot Camp
1495 Weaver St 2nd Floor
(914) 713-5650

spencerpharmacySpencer Pharmacy has a beautiful array of holiday gifts. Stop by to see their large selection of gifts and greeting cards and save 20% off holiday gifts. Find Lenox collectibles, picture frames, scented candles, Christmas tabletop, a variety of ceramic mugs, scented soaps, plush toys, paper goods and more. For 70 years Spencer has been dispensing medication in Scarsdale Village. Most prescription plans accepted, home delivery available.

Spencer Pharmacy
23 Spencer Place
Open Monday Friday 8 am - 6:45 pm
Saturday 8 am - 5:45 pm

Brut2Zachys: You can't go wrong with the gift of wine or champagne. This year Zachys recommends the following:

Deutz Classic Brut Champagne NVTenuta3
Item # 21675/Score 92WS/90JS
Price $52.99 Special $39.99
Order here:

Tenuta San Guide Le Difese 2016
Item # 430401
Score 92-93JS/09WA
Price $34.99 Special $25.99
Order here:

Zachys Wine and Liquor
16 East Parkway
Scarsdale, NY 10583
(914) 874-8000

Shop & Dine the 'Dale, Thursday, December 6th through Saturday, December 8th with extended evening hours until 8pm on Thursday.

ShopandDineLight the 'Dale on Friday night November 30 and Shop and Dine the 'Dale December 6-8

Light the ‘Dale, the annual holiday and tree lighting event in Boniface Circle in Scarsdale Village will be held on Friday, November 30, from 5:00 - 7:00 pm. This year’s event promises to be even bigger and better than last year’s. There will be singers, food, and holiday lights! Plus all the old favorites, like Santa arriving in style on the fire truck, and hot chocolate courtesy of Lange’s.

Shop & Dine the 'Dale will include over 35 SBA merchants and restaurants from Scarsdale Village, Golden Horseshoe, Five Corners, Colonial Village, Scarsdale Commons, Garth Road and Scarsdale Avenue will be participating in this community-wide event.

The SBA will hold a collaborative grand raffle with gift cards to your favorite stores and restaurants. Make a purchase at a participating store or dine at an SBA establishment to be entered into the raffle. There will be live musical entertainment in Scarsdale Village on Thursday evening December 6th, from 6pm - 7pm, and during the day on Saturday, December 8th from 12pm - 2pm.

santaLetters to Santa: Kids can submit their wish lists to Santa.
Santa will be making his way through Scarsdale to pick up letters from good little girls and boys. Santa's mailboxes are now located by the Chase Bank on East Parkway, the Post Office on Chase Road, in front of Metro Deli on Palmer Ave and in front of the Scarsdale Village Hall. Santa is looking forward to receiving your letters.

The deadline for submitting letters is Tuesday, December 11th.

Breakfast with Santa: The Scarsdale Parks and Recreation Department will be hosting the 11th Annual Scarsdale Holiday Breakfast on Saturday, December 8th from 9:00-11:00AM for all Pre-K through 4th grade students and their families. Those who attend will receive special holiday giveaways and have the chance to take their picture with Santa who will be visiting Scarsdale from the North Pole. Cost is $8 per person. Please register online here or at the Recreation Department by December 4th. Thanks to Lange’s Deli for providing breakfast.

CNCGraphicScarsdale Citizens Nominating Committee (“CNC”) welcomes the 13 newly elected members and invites the public to observe its first meeting Monday, November 26, 2018 at 8:00 PM in Rutherford Hall in Village Hall 1001 Post Road, Scarsdale, NY 10583. Come to the meeting to learn more about Scarsdale's non-partisan system for selecting candidates to run for Village office on the Scarsdale Citizens' Non-Partisan Party slate. Scarsdale Public Television will record the meeting.

The CNC consists of 30 elected Scarsdale residents who represent their neighborhood election units (Edgewood, Fox Meadow, Greenacres, Heathcote and Quaker Ridge). Ten new members are elected to the CNC each November to serve staggered three-year terms. In addition, this year three additional members were elected to fill vacancies on the CNC in other classes. The volunteer group will meet from November to January to seek, interview, and evaluate potential candidates to run for Village office. This year the CNC will nominate individuals to run for Mayor and three openings on the Scarsdale Village Board. Mayor Dan Hochvert will be finishing his two-year term as Mayor. Trustees Matthew Callaghan and Carl Finger will be finishing their second two-year terms and Trustee Seth Ross will be completing his first two-year term. The General Village Election will be held at Village Hall on Tuesday, March 19, 2019.

Scarsdale's non-partisan system has been operating successfully for over 100 years, following a contentious election in 1909. The goal of the non-partisan system is to attract qualified citizens who would otherwise avoid campaigning, but would be willing to run for office in elections. The CNC's deliberations and due diligence on all potential nominees is kept confidential to further encourage well-qualified volunteers to apply for a spot on the non-partisan slate. Typically there are four non-elected and non-voting administrative members of the CNC present to insure adherence to the procedural requirements of the Non-Partisan Resolution. Potential candidates also have the option to run for office outside of the Non-Partisan System under provisions of New York State law.

Are you interested in running for Mayor or Trustee? Do you know someone who would serve the Village of Scarsdale well? Contact any CNC representative listed below; or inform the CNC Chair, Jon Mark, at 914.472.4053 or jmark58@aol.com, or CNC Vice Chair, Tim Foley whose contact information appears above.

Final deadline for submission of Biographical Form to the CNC is 5:00 PM January 18, 2019.




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